Jesus, God With Us
Bible Text: Matthew 18:15-20 | Preacher: Phill Howell | Series: The Gospel According to Matthew | This week’s message contains nine questions you should ask yourself before confronting someone who has sinned.
1. Are they your brother or sister?
1 Corinthians 5:12-13
For what have I to do with judging outsiders? Is it not those inside the church whom you are to judge? 13 God judges those outside.
2. Have they actually sinned?
3. Should you go or let it go?
a) Some matters are weightier than others.
Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you tithe mint and dill and cumin, and have neglected the weightier matters of the law: justice and mercy and faithfulness.
b) Some sins should be covered with love.
1 Peter 4:8
Above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.
1 Corinthians 6:1-8
When one of you has a grievance against another, does he dare go to law before the unrighteous instead of the saints? … if you have such cases, why do you lay them before those who have no standing in the church? … Can it be that there is no one among you wise enough to settle a dispute between the brothers, but brother goes to law against brother, and that before unbelievers? To have lawsuits at all with one another is already a defeat for you. Why not rather suffer wrong? Why not rather be defrauded?
c) Some sins must be addressed because they destroy our lives.
save others by snatching them out of the fire
My brothers, if one of you should wander from the truth and someone should bring him back, consider this: Whoever turns a sinner from the error of his way will save his soul from death and cover over a multitude of sins.
If a man has a hundred sheep, and one of them has gone astray, does he not leave the ninety-nine on the mountains and go in search of the one that went astray?
d) Some people do not care about the other person they are confronting.
Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted.
4. Are you alone?
5. Should you just give up?
6. Who can help you?
“A single witness shall not suffice against a person for any crime or for any wrong in connection with any offense that he has committed. Only on the evidence of two witnesses or of three witnesses shall a charge be established.
7. Who is your church?
8. How will your relationship change?
1 Corinthians 5:11-13
I am writing to you not to associate with anyone who bears the name of brother if he is guilty of sexual immorality or greed, or is an idolater, reviler, drunkard, or swindler—not even to eat with such a one. For what have I to do with judging outsiders? Is it not those inside the church whom you are to judge? God judges those outside. “Purge the evil person from among you.”
9. Why should we do this?